During the final weeks of Kathys’ life, I was impressed by the number of people who stopped by to visit her here at home. And while I was not surprised to see friends and family, there were some visitors that completely took me by surprise.
These visitors were a surprise because they apparently no longer had time to be friends with Kathy. And even though Kathy would leave messages on their answering machines and send them emails suggesting a get together for coffee, none of these people ever responded back to her. So, when these same individuals showed up at our door, I was shocked.
After years of unreturned calls and unanswered emails, these people decided to give 5 minutes of their time to visit Kathy. While I was impressed that they even made the effort, I did have to wonder as to their motive. Were they really interested in seeing Kathy or were they feeling guilty that they hadn’t made time for her in the past?
I mean, some of these people Kathy considered to be her best friends. Yet, these people didn’t even have time to reply to the birthday cards that she would send out.
Well, I haven’t seen them since. So, I guess their visits were the result of a guilt trip and nothing more.
Sad,